Tonight in the grocery store I was reading Cosmo to find out what was “The Nasty Habit That Turns Off Men”. (March 2007) It turns out to be: dissing guys. That fun thing that women like to do as a major recreational pastime: bad-mouthing the male gender.
Except that I learned a really long time ago not to do it. Mostly because I am married to a rather great husband, and so I didn’t need to trash talk about him. In fact, I usually told stories about his amazing-ness. I remember one time when I was teaching Relief Society and, I forget now the topic, but one lady's comment was something along these lines, “But Sister [EarthSignMama], you’re married to a wonderful, competent man who can do [whatever the topic was]—you’ve told us.” And I felt very proud of myself for being known as the wife who compliments her husband in public.
It just struck me as I read that article because there is so much trashing of men---ads on t.v. feature the stupid guy who must be saved by the female. Sitcoms commonly have the Stupid Old Dad/Husband who is treated horribly by the wife and kids. YOU KNOW there is no way that anyone would dare make a show about the Stupid Old Wife.
So anyway---be nice out there ladies. Go get Cosmo (or at least read pg. 142 in the grocery store line) and learn how this habit negatively affects our relationships. eg: if you're willing to talk badly about former boyfriends/ex-husbands to your current Amour, then how can he avoid thinking "Hmmm...when is she going to start applying this to me?? How am I screwing up?? When will I be the topic of tirade??"
"I want to be kind to everyone,
For that is right, you see.
So I say to myself,
Remember this:
KINDNESS BEGINS WITH ME."
And, Cool Guy, in case I haven't said it lately, "Thanks for all your Amazing-ness!"
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Great thought!
"YOU KNOW there is no way that anyone would dare make a show about the Stupid Old Wife."
Stifle it Edith. You're such a dingbat.
Wow, that reference to a 30 year old TV show is so timely. You've immediately proven the argument of this post concerning modern attitudes towards women incorrect.
And really, wasn't "All In The Family" a leader in the realm of male-basing, showing Archie as a buffoon and Edith as a saint? And the Meathead did not fare well against Gloria, either.
"You've immediately proven the argument of this post concerning modern attitudes towards women incorrect."
Wow, you read way too much into my response. Wasn't trying to disprove that male bashing is in fashion. Just throwing away a line with a counter to the ONE sentence I quoted.
Yes, Archie was often the idiot and Edith was a sweetheart but she was always portrayed as an airhead.
It's also fairly relevant int hat even though the show is off the air it is still played nightly in syndication.
As for it being the leader in male bashing...possibly, but more the case it was bashing the WASP bigoted male.
Sorry bobbit em, you should just admit it when you are wrong.
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